It’s a controversial topic, but that’s never stopped us before — today we’re looking at how to get nudes from a girl. I’m going to give you a few basic guidelines as well as some tips so you can get the best success.
All of this great advice applies equally if you’re trying to figure out how to get nudes from your girlfriend too.
Whether you’re in a relationship or not, it can be a risky game. I’d suggest doing it sparingly. You know what they say though, no risk, no reward.
How to get nudes from any girl
The reason this topic is so controversial is because of the approach far too many guys take. They think it’s acceptable to message her saying “show me your tits.”
Ever the optimist though, I actually appreciate these guys. Why? They set the bar so incredibly low for the rest of us. A massive part of dating is just demonstrating that you aren’t one of these neanderthals. Everything else is easy.
In fairness, I do see the “pickup artist” trap lead people down this route. They fall into that community because they need help with dating and that community can be vocal. Before long, they’ve forgotten they’re talking to women and are too busy “gaming HBs” (Hot Babes. Gag.) instead.
Some legitimate advice I’ve seen from that community is to demand pics because you’re so alpha. Like she’s doing you a favor. The other gem was to tell her how great another woman’s nudes are and suggest that she couldn’t compete with that anyway. Pickup artists seem to think that women are as competitive as men about the size of their package.
All of this is to say, stay away from this garbage. She isn’t doing you a favor, demanding nudes won’t work, and she doesn’t want to hear about another woman’s photos.
In fact, if you’re not that good at talking to women, you’ll have way less luck at getting them to send you some nudes. One of the best ways to improve your skills with women is by taking an in-depth dating course on how to make women more attracted to you.
Build trust
There’s a lot at risk when sending nudes. If the pictures are leaked, it could lead to complete humiliation. There could even be professional repercussions. That’s why the first step to successfully asking for nudes is to build trust with a woman.
Trust takes time to build. If you’ve put the time in to get to know this woman, she’ll be far more open to sending naughty pictures. However, there are ways to build trust quickly. If you can show vulnerability by sharing personal stories and discussing deep emotional topics, that can help.
In fact, any behavior which shows she’s not just “the next girl” is useful. Tell her what you like about her other than her appearance. Share discussions or experiences that you wouldn’t share with just anyone. Just make sure not to take this so far that you appear desperate.
If you’ve already done the dirty, even better. Sex is an intimate experience that can build trust faster than almost anything else, provided you continue to treat her well afterward. The McAfee poll revealed that 77% of sexters send nudes to their significant other, compared to only 16% who send pictures to complete strangers.
Don’t directly ask for them
This is another subject where I really have to start with an important “what not to do.” There’s no way to directly ask her for nude photos without sounding like you’re begging.